I shared yesterday about how my dad and I have a love for putting puzzles together. A connection ~ or bond ~ that has lasted and I have passed down to my babies.
The working together. The working alone. The frame. The color sorting. The types of pieces sorting. The conversations!
More than the learning and life experience, more than the quality family time ~ My puzzle time growing up was with someone who chose me, someone who took me in, someone who loved me when he didn’t have to. Chose me to be part of his family. And, most of all, accepted me. Accepted me with all of my flaws.
He understood what I needed. Pushed when I needed the extra “umph.” Stood back when I needed alone time. His time … his acceptance … gave me confidence. Never once did he say anything to tear me down.
It was that frame … the frame of the puzzle ~ it built trust. Trust a relationship is built upon. Trust that went both ways. Trust that I would figure it out. Trust that would let me fall when I needed to learn. And, a trust that I would be guided so I would not stay down.
I know this person wasn’t perfect. I never expected him to be ~ nor did he expect perfection from me. What a beautiful concept to learn … Love through the imperfections.
I realize now, that was the frame of my puzzle. The key in the foundation of my relationships, in my marriage, in being a mom, in my confidence, in my independence, in my faith, in my strength, in my ability to love.
Someone shared with me over the weekend, “When I watch you, you love fully. You love with your entire heart. You give it all. And, sometimes, you don’t get that back in return. You continue to love.”
That puzzle frame … doesn’t leave me feeling puzzled. In fact, it gives me concrete information and experiences to keep going. It was a love like Jesus. It was a love like Jesus without even know it (at the time).
My foundation was all part of God’ plan. I think about what my life would have been like or where I would be right now. One man’s decision changed my entire world. I learned what it felt like to be accepted. I experienced and saw love at its finest. To hear someone say, “I love you. I choose you to be part of my family.” that changes your heart.
It is a bit of heaven on earth, as God chooses us each and every moment of the day. He desires us to be a part of His family. He accepts us … flaws and all. He gives us confidence and never does anything to tear us down. He is always there watching, guiding. He leaves to ourselves when we need to be. He never expects us to be perfect. Knowing this … Loving Us Enough … Accepting Us as We Are … His love is the frame of everything good in our lives. His love … is Jesus.
Thank you to the man who accepted me … and helped create the foundation … the frame … of how I love … of my heart … of me.
(Part 2)