Be careful of the man who exaggerates. The story is one of pride, love of self, one-sided always, lacks wisdom, and its purpose leads to heart break.
Be careful of the man who exaggerates. The story becomes fuller of lies each time it’s told. He can’t help himself for the lies consume the entertainment. He just wants others to look at him.
Be careful of the man who exaggerates. The story always fines blame elsewhere. Excuses are created, for he never sees is own undoing.
Be careful of the man who exaggerates. One day you will no longer be needed. He will have used you and abused you. You won’t recognize yourself. He will have turned you into someone who needs him. Yet, he leaves … and exaggerates the story to someone else. Telling everyone how you left him. Of course, remember, his life is based on excuses. His heart is full of lies. His words are empty promises.
You are no longer needed because you now know him. He only needs those he can manipulate with his exaggerations. He only needs those who haven’t seen him for him yet.
I think of a story that came to me … what would it look like if I watched this man and his family without him knowing it. If I was a fly on the wall or spirit in his dreams or watching hidden video.
I watched him take 3 slices of bread. No asking. Just doing. His wife had only made 2 slices for each family member. Yet, instead of asking … he took.
This moment sums up their family relationship, their marriage. Yes, in 30 seconds you can see so much. It is a scary thought that 30 seconds of our lives can sum up, can show, can prove exactly where our heart is, and of what our hearts are full.
He took, never asking, and only giving when an ulterior motive was in order. Excuses all he knew was excuses, his own excuses.
The wife had once wrote a poem, maybe it’s a poem or more like a series of words about an exaggerated man. In those 30 seconds as I watched, I realized the wife words were about her husband. I don’t know if she realized yet.
I watched him eat, after all he took, most went into the garbage. Did he take so none else could have? Did he realize his wife didn’t eat?
The exaggerated man never sees his faults. One day he will be all alone. Everyone will eventually see the way of the exaggerated man. One last time, the wife calls out to Jesus praying this man can see his own heart. See the pain he causes and the lies he spreads, the excuses he uses. Maybe, just maybe, he will see himself through another’s eyes, instead of his own.
She feels, she begs to God, she calls to him, “I can’t pray for him any more. I am done. It is up to you to reach him. It is up to him to reach his arms to Jesus. I can’t do it for him. I can no longer be the go-between. He must do it himself.”
In our society, the exaggerated man is everywhere. Our eyes must be open to seeing what is there and what is being hidden ~ the truth of heart.
The truth of our hearts is many times revealed in our words and our actions, especially when we feel we are up against a wall.
I see this in the business world, in the church world, in families, EVERYWHERE.
Recently in the business world, I overheard a conversation between 2 men. One I could tell was an exaggerated man. As he tried to appear humble, tried to appear as a Godly man coming before the other embarrassed.
As the 2 were deep in discussion, it became obvious to me, he was full of it. His words as he realized he wasn’t getting his way. “Go ahead. My dad told me I don’t have to pay my debts. People can sue me over past bills. They can sue me all day long. If I don’t have the money, I don’t have to pay. They can’t anything.”
I realized that this exaggerated man was taught by an exaggerated man. How the webs we weave … we reap what we sow.
The Bible is very clear about paying our debts. It is an integrity issue. It is a heart issue.
Yet, in the business world, I see and hear people complain about not having money yet they are first to eat out, treat themselves to a day of pampering, take their kids on crazy vacations.
Being real always works. Staying true to who we are always works. It might not be easy, but it works. And, being real teaches our children to be real. Teaches them good habits. We sow into them what we do. And, sometimes putting our family first means having to say, “No,” instead of keeping the charade of exaggeration up. God is a good father. And, God answers us with a “No,” every once in awhile. This keeps us real. It helps keep us from living the exaggerated life. He does it because He desires us to need him … to want him.